What prevents us from change?
Did you ever ask yourself any of the following questions?
Why can’t I do it?
Did I achieve what I set out to do?
Am I really where I want to be in my life?
Am I impatient and not making the most of it?
How many more setbacks do I need to go through to move forward?
Why does it seem like I take two steps backwards each time I take a step forward?
If you have, maybe it is because you are, if only subconsciously, looking for answers and wanting to take action. Some ways to improve, take charge and enjoy your destiny or refocus and reset yourself to stop feeling the same way. Season greetings are notorious for starting to evaluate our status, our happiness, and our journey.
What prevents us from change – Let’s face it
2020 has been a challenging year for most of us in a variety of ways. We all have our own stories to tell about this. However, before you start, do not think you have to jack it all in and move to the other side of the world at any cost.
Likewise, I am not talking about New Year’s resolutions either! We know both are pretty unrealistic and will bring further discontent. We do not need to beat ourselves up more than we have to.
So, as we evaluate our journey and what lies ahead, is it more of the same for most of us? Some think getting through the pandemic would be an outstanding achievement. Others are to remain in their employment, etc. Well, it does not have to be that pathway; we can all make small or big amendments to improve our tomorrow.
It is about project management, creating an action plan to reduce stress and embedding positive thoughts. We can change any area of our life and remove negative reviews.
We oversee our tomorrow, no one else is, and we should not blame anything or anyone for it. As one once said, plan today for a better tomorrow! That is very accurate, no point in looking at yesterday, nothing can be done about it besides learning from it, yet we cannot rely on someone else to plan for us. All our thoughts have a life span and need action steps to move forward.
We should see what barriers are stopping us from “moving on” in a positive way with our lives. For example, are you living with fear? Fear of letting go of what you know and are comfortable with, and frightened of the unknown and what it might bring? Is a family member hindering your progress?
Or maybe you have some deeply embedded beliefs preventing you from thinking differently or refusing to allow yourself to do so? What about looking at options pessimistically?
I bet some of these resonate with you.
Why would you bother reading my blog and get so far if you are not seeking answers somehow? However, sometimes we need to look closer than we think.
When looking at the bigger picture, let us face it, no one could blame you if you did feel a little pessimistic about the future. We will all feel the same as articles come out with predictions for the forthcoming year.
What prevents us from change – what he said
Nostradamus’ (1503-1566) predictions for 2021 look somewhat gloomy. However, should we listen to what he says, bearing in mind we are four centuries later than him? Well, when looking at references, I found the quote below, which I trust explains in a few words why we maybe should take note…
“When a momentous catastrophe occurs, people react differently. One response is to seek out prophecies of the event—inspired predictions that foretold its coming. These forecasts can be comforting because they suggest that the horrible incidents were inevitable and happened as part of a larger plan. It sounds like a good movie at the box office.
There have been hundreds of notable prophets throughout human history, but in the wake of modern tragedies, one name seems to pop up more than any other: Nostradamus.
Nostradamus has been credited with prophesying dozens of pivotal episodes in recent history, including the rise of Adolf Hitler, the assassination of John F. Kennedy, and, most recently, if we look at the longevity, the destruction of the World Trade Centre towers.
On the Internet, Nostradamus followers and hoaxers have put together detailed interpretations of Nostradamus’ works and fabricated passages.”
Link reference for your perusal: https://science.howstuffworks.com/science-vs-myth/extrasensory-perceptions/nostradamus.htm
Following on from this
I went to look at his future forecasts as I find this quite interesting. Of course, when reading predictions, many twist interpretations to fit with recent or ongoing events. For 2021, he states the following…
- Zombie Apocalypse
- A Famine of Biblical Proportions
- The Muslims Will Lead the World
- Solar Storms
- A Comet Will Hit the Earth, or it Will Come Very Close to Terra
- A Devastating Earthquake Will Destroy California
- The American Soldiers Will Have Brain Chip Implants
- Pope Francis Will Bring People Closer to the Church
I have included the link below so you can read the full article if interested in this: https://www.yearly-horoscope.org/nostradamus-2021-predictions/
If your curiosity takes you further, look at Baba Vanga’s predictions. She predicted the September 11 terror attack and Brexit.
You might say, where is this going? Why should I keep reading this? I do not believe or follow this and do not see any relevance. Although you are right to ask yourself this question, my point is that we can always find an excuse not to look at ourselves for whatever reason and deprive ourselves of reaching our goals.
When we can read about predictions as above, there is nothing we can do about them, and we need to let go. Instead, we can look closer to home and concentrate on things we can influence and change for the best.
Yet, Season greetings are notorious for starting to evaluate our status, happiness, and journey.
As the proverb goes, we need to acknowledge, as the saying goes, ‘the grass is not always greener on the other side. But, the other side is the same if we are unwilling and prepared to work at it. It only gets greener if you water and feed it with positivity and a plan of action.
As an Executive Transitional Life Coach and mentor, I have the privilege of working with many people with different aspirations at any time. Some may need a little nudge to return to the track they were on after, for some reason straying from the path.
Others are looking for radical change in their lives, being healthy, parenting, career, or relationship (sometimes within themselves). It does not matter what the motives are. What is much more important is to have a structure, a plan for the path you want to create and follow. One of the critical elements of change is routine, and you can read more about it in this blog http://ericcouturiercoaching.com/routine-how-to-create-something-sustainable/
What I find confusing at times, and again something you may relate to, is way too many say “friends” have all the answers for you and are more than willing to share them over designer coffee, a glass of wine or anything else for that matter.
If you do not see the light, maybe you need to take a few steps back and detach yourself from the person you are to look at things objectively and not emotionally with your heart.
When working with my clients, I plan with them and challenge their judgments and thoughts, sometimes in some uncomfortable ways, to jump over the barriers and achieve their goals: whichever plan and the path my clients choose.
As a result, I work with them and am never far behind in supporting and facilitating your growth and development.
Now you reach far, think, contemplate, and comment if you wish.
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