Habits for Coping with Resilience in a Modern World.
Why is resilience important and never too late to develop good habits?
A quote from someone who experienced his fair share of resilience and adversity showed us all how resilient one can be: “Do not judge me by my success. Instead, judge me by how many times I fell and got back up again.” – Nelson Mandela.
Resilience is important because it’s needed to process and overcome hardship, mental health and transition. Indeed, those lacking stability get easily overwhelmed and may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. For example, a glass of wine in the evening to “relax” from the hard day at work becomes two, and then the bottle. I am not suggesting not to drink, but is it for the right reason and short term? Not to deal with frustration? Again, others may choose another coping method, which could be even more detrimental to their health, personal development, family or career.
Let’s think about it.
Alternatively, resilient people tap into their strengths and support systems to overcome challenges. They work through problems in what can be described as a healthy way. For example, instead of turning to unhealthy habits, one could find a life coach or mentor if they separate part of their life. Coach training and mentor relationships keep away from daily life and help cope with frustrations.
Definition of resilience.
It is fair to say the definition has changed and adapted over the last 50 years.
Today, resilience is commonly referred to as the process of adapting well in the face of transition, adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. Because, in our modern world, we are continually multi-tasking and casing deadlines. This put a large amount of undue stress. In addition, this definition captures the “bounce-back” characteristic, which reflects one of the central characteristics of resilience.
How do we build resilience?
Dr Ginsburg, a child paediatrician and human development expert, proposes that seven integral and interrelated components make up resilience. This is commonly known as the 7 C’s and is critical in developing strength.
It is the ability to know how to handle stressful situations effectively. It requires the skills to face challenges and the opportunity to practice using these skills to feel competent in dealing with problems.
It is the belief in one’s abilities and is rooted in competence. Individuals gain confidence by being able to demonstrate their competence in real situations. One of the most important, in my view, is something which is sometimes overlooked at a younger age.
People with close ties to friends, family, and community groups are likely to have a stronger sense of security and purpose of belonging. These people are more likely to have strong values and are less likely to seek out alternative destructive behaviours.
Individuals with “character” enjoy a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. They are in touch with their values and are comfortable sticking to them. They can demonstrate a caring attitude towards others. They have a strong sense of right and wrong and are prepared to make wise choices and contribute to the world.
Suppose individuals can experience personally contributing to the world. In that case, they can learn that the world is better because they are in it. A thank you goes a long way in making individuals valued and needed.
People with a vast repertoire of coping skills (social skills, stress reduction skills) can manage more effectively and are better prepared to overcome life’s challenges.
When individuals realise they have control over their decisions and actions, they are more likely to know how to make choices to bounce back from life’s challenges.
Where this is true for children; it is the development template for all. However, due to control outside of our own, sometimes some components are undeveloped.
Habits for Coping with Resilience in a Modern World – It is never too late to change.
Where we cannot control our past and juvenile development, we can learn and change how we look and deal with situations. It is the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. Developing and implementing good habits to make us more resilient to adversity is never too late. Building resilience is critical to turning challenges into successes.
It has nothing to do with being strong or weak. Anyone can deal with adversity if an individual has the right tools to draw on when an issue arises. Finding a mentor or executive life coach who can deliver practical coaching sessions and empower you on your journey can benefit your personal and professional development.
Last thought on resilience.
Next time you are facing adversity or feeling frustration, trust you can do it. We all need to fall to learn and become back stronger. It is part of our development; adversity will challenge you but won’t break you. We all come across role models helping us along our journey, fixing and growth then happen.
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” – Lao Tzu
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